Simplifying life, business and everything in between.

Communication breakdown?

Communication problems

Our ability to communicate our thoughts, feelings and points of view is one aspect that separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom. It’s just that we’re not all that good at it all of the time.

Recently, I wrote about returning from Bali and having some difficulty readjusting to Western life. Well, in the time since I’ve made a very important discovery. It’s nothing astounding or previously unknown but it is worth taking some time to mull over:

Communication is one of the keys to happiness.

Perhaps it is the key to happiness (although I am sure there are others). It simply strikes me that whenever you’re in a funk you can get yourself out of it by talking to someone. (It helps when you talk to the right person.)

Sure sometimes you need to think about all this human condition stuff by yourself. Yet ultimately it takes interaction with other evolved apes to get to the heart of matters.

A few other observations:

  • Email and SMS are crap ways to communicate when serious conversation is required
  • There’s too great a margin for error when things are left unsaid
  • Time does not heal all wounds
  • A tough conversation is better than no conversation at all
  • Conflict isn’t always bad

In closing, I have recently found that a good old bout of in depth chin wagging makes you feel more alive. What do you think?

Good decisions, bad decisions

Decisions Decisions

Every single day you will be faced with the necessity of making decisions. This is unavoidable no matter how much you want to press the big ol’ pause button on life. Decisions may be minor (Which shoes will I wear?), moderate (Do I buy that new car?) or major (Should I change my career?). They are all decisions and they all demand time and energy.

Bad decisions

Bad decisions can often be identified by the following:

  • Immediate gratification
  • Requiring more decisions to repair the damage

Bad decisions are often based on:

  • Convenience
  • Emotion
  • Whimsy
  • The quick fix

Good decisions

Good decisions can often be identified by the following:

  • Long term gratification
  • Being in line with your personal ethics
  • Uncomfortable
  • Difficult
  • Require time for consideration

Good decisions are often based upon:

  • Experience
  • Adequate consideration
  • Consultation with friends and family

Weighing the options

If you’re looking to feel better immediately, then you’re looking down the barrel of a bad decision. Yes, sometimes quick decisions turn out okay, but rarely do quick decisions -made for the purpose of feeling better right now or convenience – lend themselves to positive longer term outcomes.

If you want to get better at making decisions take the time to review how your most recent decisions have turned out. Are you feeding your ego? Are you feeding your desire for immediate gratification? Or are you setting yourself up for long-term benefits? Are you making the tough decisions that life requires?

If all else fails just do what most people do and stick your head in the sand.

Three ways to simplify your workday…today

Ants know hard work

After years and years of running around chasing my tail I finally realised that the simple way is the only way. Confusion, complexity and stress were my modus operandi. These days I choose the simple path and that all started for me by simplifying my business day. So, here are my three super duper tips to get you started:

1. Turn off notifications

You really don’t need to know about everything that happens as it happens. Sure there are some aspects of your job that will require immediate attention (especially if you’re an air traffic controller) but I have no doubt that you are overwhelmed by notifications that are unimportant.

Are you suffering notification anxiety?

It’s time to disconnect.

Here’s what you need to do right now:

  • Turn off all notifications of new email messages and commit to checking your email inbox only at designated times through the day. Perhaps start checking on the hour, then every 2 hours. I aim to check my inbox only twice per day.
  • Turn off the auto-check feature in your email client. If you don’t see the messages land in your inbox you won’t be tempted to read them right now.
  • Police your usage of social media applications. Perhaps set a time to do this? Say, after you complete a key task. And please turn off the notifications that get sent to your smart phone.

“But wait! There are some messages I really need to know about”

Okay, I admit it sometimes you really are hanging on an important email message. In these cases you need a tool like AwayFind. AwayFind will let you know when certain emails hit your account with a ping to your smart phone. Yes, it’s still a notification but it’s being used intelligently to make your day simpler. One important notification is better than many varied and probably useless notifications.

2. One thing at a time

Multi-tasking is a myth. You cannot, by definition, do more than one thing at a time. At any instant you are only really doing one thing. The trick is learning to dedicate everything you have to that one thing. By focusing intently upon one thing at a time you will find that you do not get anxious about upcoming tasks. Further, your results will be much improved. Half-focus never produces the goods.

At the end of each day, I generally write myself a list of three important tasks for the next day. These are the tasks I will complete before ay others. Often, it’s only the first task that I get to. That’s okay because the first task is always the important one. I focus on that task until it is complete and then I take a break and move on to the next task.

The simplest approach to getting things done is to do one thing at a time.

3. Schedule your breaks

Working right through without any down time is plain stupid. That’s right I said it, stupid. Yeah, yeah, sometimes you’re really busy but that doesn’t make a workday without breaks any less stupid. You simply cannot work most effectively for long periods of time. Eventually fatigue will set in and the quality of your output will diminish. To avoid producing crappy work be sure to schedule rest periods. Here are a few different ways to incorporate scheduled breaks into your day:

  • Schedule breaks every 90 minutes. No matter where you are in your task, take a 15 minute break every 90 minutes
  • Schedule breaks at every task milestone. Take a break every time you get to a pre-determined point in any task you are working on (be sure that the milestones are regular).
  • Schedule sprint/rest intervals. This one takes some experimentation. Set yourself a timer of work and rest intervals. You could try 30 minutes of work followed by 10 minutes of rest or 60 minutes on and 20 minutes off. I recommend a 3:1 ratio.

Don’t feel guilty about taking a break. If anything it will make you better at what you do.

Tunnel vision leads to success

Tunnel driveCommonsense says “don’t put all of your eggs into one basket.”

Uncommonsense says “put all your eggs into one basket and watch that basket like a hawk.”

Diversification means a division of attention. It means complication. It means complexity. We already have too much complexity in our lives. Modern technology has made things busier rather than easier. It’s nothing like The Jetsons. We don’t need more complexity we need more simplicity.

Tunnel vision equals simplicity. Forget about all the superfluous stuff floating around the edges of your vision. Put the blinkers on. Focus unwaveringly on your ultimate vision, your ultimate goal.

Successful people have tunnel vision. They remove the waste and focus only on what they have to focus on. They don’t concern themselves with anything that does not contribute to their ultimate goal.

Note: this post was first published in 2009. It has been reviewed and re-published here.

The joy of clarity and a clean desk

Office clutterIt may not sound like a necessity for business success but I’d like to suggest that maintaining a clean desk is one way that you can step closer to the achievement of your goals.

Business operations are complicated enough without having a complicated and cluttered environment in which to work from. If your desk is a mess then chances are your tasks will be affected. No doubt you will lose time looking for important pieces of paper. You may even miss tasks completely because the reminders have been lost in the maelstrom that is your work desk.

A clean desk equals clarity. It allows for no distractions in what you are focusing upon.

Before you commence any task remove any superfluous items from your desk. If something doesn’t relate to what you are doing right now then it’s a distraction and must be removed. Simple and effective.

The act of moving distractions and simplifying your workday will give you clarity. Once you have clarity in your day, you will become more efficient and more effective.

Note: this post was first published in 2009. It has been reviewed and re-published here.